Orgasms help reduce stress, improve your skin and even make you feel “great”. For many women, orgasms achieved through penetration are equally as mysterious as the G-spot.
It is a known fact that it is very rare for a woman to orgasm through penetration alone and they need some kind of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm.
However, even if you haven’t experienced a vaginal orgasm, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Some believe that the G spot may be the key to women achieving orgasm during penetration. But some researchers believe that vaginal orgasms don’t even exist, so it can be difficult to separate fact from fiction.
What is the G spot?
You have probably heard of the importance of the G-spot for an earth-shattering vaginal orgasm. Whether this is real or not is a little complicated.
The G-spot was first introduced by Dr. Beverly Whipple after she discovered that using the “come here” motion along the inner walls of the vagina produced a physical response in women. She believed that this region could be the key to women achieving orgasm during sex. Although, it is important to know that the G-spot is not a significant part of your body. The G-spot is not a separate spot or bud inside of your vagina but actually a part of the clitoral network. So if and when you are actually stimulating the G-spot, you are actually stimulating the clitoris through the inside, which is much larger than we can see from the outside. The clitoris which is a pea sized bud on the outside actually divides into two roots on the inside which are actually about 4 inches long. The region of the G-spot varies in all women which is why it is difficult to find. Since it is a part of the clitoral network, stimulation of the G-spot causes female ejaculation and helps women reach vaginal orgasm.
Considering it is not exactly a distinct body part, finding the G-spot can be a little difficult. But this doesn’t mean that it is difficult to find it and it has been proven that finding the G-spot is easier to find through self exploration rather than during partnered sex.
If you need to explore your body, you need to relax to begin with. As you begin to explore your body, do what feels best to you. When you’re ready, begin massaging the opening to your vagina before inserting your fingers or a sex toy. Then, using your fingers or a toy, lift upward toward your belly button in a “come hither” motion. Remember, you’re not trying to hit a specific button but rather finding what feels best for you in that general region. Repeat the motion as the sensation builds, and — instead of an in-and-out movement — you’ll want to keep focusing your attention on this area.
Not all women will find satisfaction through G spot stimulation, and that’s fine too. Remember that masturbation is completely normal and it can be a healthy part of any relationship. By taking time to explore your own preferences, you can use that information to instruct your partner on what you enjoy most during sex.
The Best Sex Positions to Stimulate the G-Spot
If you’re looking for G-spot stimulation during intercourse or partnered sex then there are certain sex positions that you can try that work the best for stimulating the G-spot. Positions that allow the woman to be in a little more control over their movements can help them figure out what kind of stimulation is best for them. Although there are many movements you can try, three of these are the top rated for G-spot stimulation.
You would have heard about the Cowgirl position and how almost all women swear by it. It’s simple actually, have your partner lay down on their back or sit and straddle them. Cowgirl puts the woman in control and she can control the angle, depth and even rhythm that suits her and this helps in stimulating the G-spot. Instead of bobbing up and down, try moving back and forth to stimulate the G spot region against your inner vaginal wall. Mixing it up can help as well, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different speeds and angles.
Doggy style is a great way to achieve deeper penetration and it is also very easy to change angles to hit right at the G-spot. Start by simply going down on all your fours like a dog as the name suggests with your partner behind you. During penetration, try leaning down on your forearms or pushing your hips backward to change the angle until you find the position that works best for you. If you’d like, you can try a different variation by lying flat on your stomach with your legs hanging off the edge of the bed, allowing your partner to stand behind you and penetrate from there.
Closed missionary position
A variation on the classic missionary position, this position allows for greater stimulation without the depth of penetration. You’ll start off on your back in missionary position before moving your legs together. Then, your partner’s legs should straddle yours, allowing a tighter squeeze. While this shallow penetration might not hit as deep, it does create a tighter feeling — and more increased friction against your G spot — which might be the perfect way to help you reach orgasm.
How to find the G-spot? Find what works for you
Despite what all the movies and shows might suggest, sex isn’t easy and it definitely isn’t quick. Women think that sex is shameful and this thinking makes it harden for them to enjoy the feeling and reach orgasms and sexual satisfaction.
Take charge of your sex life and its needs and figure out what you like. If this means finding your G-spot then good for you. There is no single way to achieve an orgasm. It's completely normal to prefer a combination of foreplay and penetration and finding out what you like does take time so don’t get frustrated and be patient.
The most important thing is that you’re satisfied. Exploring your body and your sexual preferences is a great step in making sure you have a happy, safe, and pleasurable sex life. You should never feel ashamed of figuring out what you like. After all, everyone deserves to have great sex.