It’s very common for a couple’s sex life to hit rock bottom especially for those in long term relationships. Many people in long-term relationships can fall into particular patterns or routines — how sex is instigated, what positions you use, what time of day you do it. But it’s important to remember that, when it comes to sexual desire, your interests and activity can fluctuate depending on what’s going on in your life and how you’re feeling.
That said, there is a lot that can be done to spice up a sex life. Some of the things that people mention they miss in longer-term relationships include novelty, mystery and playfulness. As such, anything we can do to help address or inject these missing elements back into your sex life is likely to create a difference. Here are 9 things to try…
Watching Porn Together
Couples should cultivate the habit of watching porn together once in a while, to boost their sex life. It’s very important. It has been reported in many studies that couples that watch porn together tend to be way more satisfied with their physical relationship. When one partner views pornography frequently and the other doesn’t, the disbalance causes less sexual fulfillment. If you watch porn with your partner, it will not only teach you about your body but you will understand your partner’s likes and dislikes even more.
Bondage & Blindfold
There’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of when it comes to BDSM. People think it equals pain. But, in reality, BDSM covers everything from playful role-playing to spanking to tying up your partner and teasing them with a feather. You can go as heavy as you want — as long as it’s consensual. But you don’t need to, either. You can always just dip your toe in — and that will still add a level of erotic energy to sex play with your partner. Blindfolds are a great way to get your partner to feel the intensity of an orgasm. When one of senses is blocked, the others heighten and that’s exactly what happens when one partner is blindfolded.
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With public sex being illegal, it is also an extreme turn on for some people. The risk of getting caught while getting frisky is what attracts many people. It’s not only having intercourse outside but Bluetooth controlled vibrators have become all the rage now. It is the best way to surprise your partner and control them.
Anything but the Bed
If you and your partner are going to a rut where even the sex feels planned and scheduled. Try changing things a bit and what can be the easiest change to use any place to have sex but the bed itself. So many options and so many places and you never know you might just find your new favorite place.
Mirror Mirror On The Wall
When you watch yourself having sex in front, it gives you a sense of confidence that also boosts your sex drive. It also keeps the woman in focus to the act and not think about other things. When you look into the mirror you realize that no matter what your body type is, your partner is enjoying your body. Having confidence in your body is extremely important to have a healthy sex life.
Hot & Cold
Physiological sexual response creates increased heart rate and blood flow, explaining the warmth experienced during intimacy. Folks particularly compelled by such temperature changes often find themselves drawn to temperature play, a sensual practice that incorporates hot or cold elements into sexy time.
Let’s Make A Movie
These days, we are more into recording our experiences than living them. Lots of couples get off on watching themselves afterwards on film and having sex again because they are so turned on. And if you are going to dress up in sexy outfits for a session, of course you are going to want footage of the action. But if you’re going to engage in some on-camera action, make sure you do it sober and with consent. It is not a good idea to get the cameras out with a new partner or someone you don’t trust completely.
Just Stop Breathing
Breath play is a sexual activity favored by some members of the BDSM community. For some people the mere thought of being choked by their partner results in sexual arousal. While some people found the feeling of being in power erotic other explained that it only increased the level of trust with their partner. Cutting of the oxygen supply to the brain makes you feel lightheaded and actually intensifies your orgasm. While breath play might be extremely erotic, it is also one of the most risky sexual activities out there.