7 Oral Sex Positions That’ll Totally Up Your Head Game

Oral sex is one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. They have your most sensitive, intimate body part in their mouth—intense! But that’s why it feels so good, and why you want to be on the same page about what’s going on down there from the get-go.

Some partners are frankly just not that great at it, so the first step in having good oral sex is open communication. Masturbate in front of each other, talk about what you like, and/or guide them with your voice or hand. If your partner doesn’t seem to be getting the idea, we can help you with that. And if you want to improve your own oral game, well, we can help you with that too!

When you’re working with a penis, use your hands to stroke the shaft, gently tug on the balls. When you’re working with a vulva, knead the thighs, stroke the labia, slide a curved finger into the vagina and/or place two fingers alongside the clitoris to make the little tip pop out a little. Move around down there and see what makes them moan.

Now, ready to put all this learning to good use? Here are some oral sex positions to try tonight.

Chin Dildo

 Once you get over giggling at your partner with a dildo strapped to their chin, using this sexy (silly-looking) tool gives you the best of both worlds: delicious oral and having your V filled at the same time!. The brave dildo wearer multi-tasks, licking and sucking while moving their head around to bone you with their dildo chin.

Tantric Oral

Instead of focusing on a specific position, try focusing deeply on your partner—particularly their genitals. In Tantra, oral sex is a tasting of another person’s soul. It’s not about friction or motion; it's about connecting to the genitals. Start by slowing down and admiring your partner’s body. Adorn them with organic, food-grade oil such as coconut or avocado, and gaze, rub, speak with and admire the area before going into what you usually think of as oral sex.

Go With the Flow

Don’t be afraid of oral sex during menstruation. If your partner is down to try it, give yourself permission to receive it! Many vulva owners find they’re more sensitive and have a higher sex drive during their period, making it a prime time for oral fun. Not ready to dive right into that crimson tide? Menstrual cups are great options for period sex, as everything is completely contained within the vagina, leaving the whole labia and clitoris free. If you’re extra worried, try it in the shower to facilitate clean-up.

The Face Time

Help control exactly how much intensity you want by straddling your partner and pressing your vulva against their mouth. It's kind of like face sitting but less of the sitting part. You can sort of rub against them or sort of angle yourself where you want and let them take over. Your partner has their hands free to squeeze your thighs and/or masturbate while you're so damn hot.

Weak in the Knees

Something about standing oral just feels more must-have-you-now intense. Tease them a little first by kneeling down and mouthing the outside of their underwear, breathing your warm breath onto them, and kissing and sucking them through the fabric. Keep it up until they beg you to remove them.

The Seated 7 and 1

Make a penis happy by using your mouth and hand together, seven strokes up and then one glorious one down. For a vulva, switch between an intense move (deep sucking, shaking your head back and forth, rapid tongue flicks) then a few long languorous licks up their entire vulva. When incoherent moaning occurs, you’re hit the right ratio.

Housebound

Restraints are great for people who have trouble getting out of their heads. Try having one person lying back with their wrists bound behind their knees. The position and the binding kind of forces vulnerability and really focuses attention on the sensations happening.

Oral sex is all about understanding your partner’s needs and their bodies. Keep trying different positions and create a safe space for open communication so your partner isn’t shy about commenting on what the would like you to do.