For better or for worse, many of us got our earliest dose of information about sex from the porn industry. Our parents might not have been comfortable to tell us about everything before our marriage and schools straight up pretend that sex and intimacy does not exist. As you grow up, curiosity kills the cat and porn was always there to answer any questions about the dirty. You might have learnt a hack or two from watching multiple videos, porn creates a fantasy of sexuality among us and does not give us a real depiction of what the deed will actually be like. Many people have commented about this industry after the Porn Ban and many of these comments stem from deeply rooted myths in our society.
Is it Just Men?
After many studies, the result is the same. Porn is a gender neutral activity, an equal number of women watch porn as men. Women are much shy to talk about this topic because of the constant hypocrisy of our society. Women don’t discuss their favorite categories out loud just from the fear of being judged or being called “characterless”.
Porn Is Harmless
Porn isn’t as harmless as everyone thinks. Since it is easily available, a rather large part of our society indulges in it. A balance of everything should be maintained in life. People who are addicted to porn, find other activities less fulfilling because of the dopamine rush that watching porn provides. Normal sex might also seem boring and unsatisfactory. The porn industry creates a fantasyland that proves the normal world to be inadequate
Say Yes to The Kinks
To keep the spice alive, trying new things can never go wrong. But trying those things doesn’t guarantee satisfaction either. It’s one thing to try something new and a different one to say yes to anything and everything. As the porn industry portrays, all the performers say yes to everything and that is their job. They are actors and are getting paid for their work, so if they are uncomfortable with something, they probably would be re-casted but that’s not how everything works in relationships. If you want something more, something new, talk to your partner and make sure they are aware of everything and are comfortable. If they aren’t, they aren’t a buzzkill but a human and do not have the same kinks as you, so try finding a middle ground.
Everyone’s got a kink
And we all have our preference. We as a society need to understand that not everyone may be interested in having sexual intercourse. An addiction to porn may not be so healthy but shaming people or judging them for indulging in porn is also not healthy either. What we need is better communication and education about such topics, so people don’t turn to Porn for their burning questions.