Have you heard of cunnilingus? Yup you’re right! It’s just a fancy word for oral sex on those who have vaginas. While it is an oral sex technique, many people also use toys like vibrators and dildos. If you are looking for some tips on oral sex, hacks or tricks to make it better, then you are at the right place.
What is Cunnilingus?
Simply put, cunnilingus is the act of performing oral stimulation on people with vulvas. It literally means to lick the vulva in latin. Although in everyday life we do not use the word cunnilingus but instead say phrases like “eating out” or “going down”. Other words that people use for oral sex are ‘blow job’ or ‘fingering’ and others as well.
How to Give?
No matter how nice it may be to have a step by step guide on how to perform cunnilingus, all people are different and their likes and dislikes are different. The first step is usually to ask your partner about what they like. Just take your time in exploring each other’s bodies and play around with different techniques, temperatures, pressures and speeds and ask them what they like.
But in any case, here is a basic guide that you could use when you are going down on someone.
You can use your mouth, tongue, lips and even your fingers on the clitoris, vulva and even the insides.
Many people believe that writing the alphabet on the clitoris with your tongue has been proven to be very pleasurable.
Sucking the clitoris gently has also been pleasurable for many people.
How to Receive it?
While cunnilingus is one of the most explosive pleasures in the world, a lot of people are unsure or even uncomfortable about receiving it. If you don’t like oral sex or are not interested in trying it you don’t have to be a part of it. If blow jobs or going down aren’t you thing then there are many other ways to be intimate as well.
One of the biggest reasons people shy away from oral sex is because they are shy about how their genitals may look or taste. A vagina is a vagina and no matter how it looks or smells, it is normal. If you are that uncomfortable, a shower before may help in reducing the anxiety.
There is always some nervousness when you are trying new things and it is completely normal. If you do decide to partake in it, start with a partner who you can trust and even communicate your anxiety with. Just communicate with them throughout and if you like or dislike something then let them know.
Some Helpful Tips:
Lay on your back and bend your knees.
If you feel your mind wandering then try focusing on your breathing.
To control the friction, move your hips against your partner’s mouth.
Are there Any Risks Involved?
While getting pregnant from oral sex is not possible, there still is a risk of getting or passing an STI or even a bacterial infection. Dental dams may not be the glamorous way but it will still protect you from contacting an STI. Before using lubricants, remember that some lubricants have added sweeteners and that can irritate the natural pH of the vagina and cause an infection.
What are some Cunnilingus Variations?
The best positions are the ones that you and your partner are the most comfortable in and there are also multiple positions that you can try out. You can obviously try the table top, doggy and 69ing is the oldest trick in the book. You can also try the Venus Butterfly.
Any Extra Tips ?
There are a few ways to up your game. Nipple play, toys like dildos or vibrators can increase the sensation. You can obviously experiment with temperature play, restraints, blindfolds, but make sure you decide on a safe word beforehand.
And no matter what, communication is the most important skill you need, let your partner know that you are enjoying yourself.