7 Signs You Are In A Situationship & How To Get Out Of It?

What is a Situationship?

Commitment free relationships are the norm these days. First they were called ‘booty call’, then came ‘friends with benefits’ and now the elephant in the room ‘situationship’. A situationship is essentially a romantic arrangement that exists between the space of something more than friendship but there is generally no definition for this relationship. 

What are the advantages and disadvantages of being in a situationship?

Pros

• Helps you understand and explore dating and relationships. 

• You may be more free to prioritize your life without necessarily needing to check in or run things by someone else.

• Intimacy and sex without any commitment. 

• Situationships are convenient when you are not capable of relationships.

Cons

• There is no consistent and stable support.

• Sharing the more serious aspects of your life makes you feel clingy and needy.

• Situationships make you emotionally vulnerable.

• Prompts self doubt and makes you second guess yourself.

• You are unable to determine the level of interest or desire your partner has for you.

• Creates and leads to conflict, resentment and anxiety in some people.

Is casual dating the same as being in a situationship?

Unlike casual, no-strings-attached relationships, which are mostly about sex, situationships usually involve some emotional investment, even if they don’t include default goodnight and goodmorning texts. In situationships, some emotional connection and responsibility are established, but the course and nature of the relationship is unclear.

Signs You are in a situationship

• There is no natural growth or evolution to your relationship.

• There is someone or multiple others involved.

• You only make short term or last minute plans.

• The excuses to cancel plans are always vague with no plan b.

• Your “relationship” is based on dirty talk.

• They tell you that they do not want anything serious

• You’re frequently anxious about this ”relationship”

How to get out of a situationship?

The best way to get out of a situationship is to ask yourself this question; Is this someone I really want to spend my life with?

If you truly believe that someone would be a wonderful partner for you then you need to have an honest and serious conversation with them, in a quiet and calm place free from distractions. Speak directly about how you feel and what you are looking for.

The difficult part comes after the conversation. Moving on from a situationship can result in unresolved feelings because technically there was nothing to be ended. Having a situationship end without it ever amounting to anything can also be hard to process.

With time everything will get better and you might even laugh about this “relationship” in the future, and if not anything else, it does teach you a great deal about your needs and wants physically as well as emotionally.